
Beverly: Breakups happen. Heartbreaks are inevitable. The thing is, you can’t be down about one (or if the case, a few) who don’t return your feelings. You’re going to find that one girl that will accept your feelings and feel the same way you do. You can’t expect the perfect relationship every time. It takes time and effort to find that one girl who will make all these heartbreaks worth it. Think of it this way: you’re one heartbreak closer to finding her. Don’t worry. It’ll happen for you.

Max: I would say that it depends on his reason for turning you down. He might like you but be incapable of going. Just be prepared for the worst.

Elaine: Oversensitive guys? As if there’s a level of sensitivity they can’t surpass? To be honest, I don’t think being sensitive makes them feminine because there are a lot of women who are less sensitive than others. Vulnerable guys are just comfortable enough to expose their feelings. And perhaps it may not be in the most reasonable way, but emotions are never reasonable. Everyone reacts to things in different ways, boys and girls. If you have a problem with “sappy, over-dramatic” boys, you should at least inform them of how you feel about it. Don’t attack the idea that they’re oversensitive. Because if they really are sensitive, telling them in a hostile way would break them. Lol.. Just saying.
What if each of your best friends are different. What if you don't hang out with a pack of people but in singles. Not all the time but when you can.
Will you still end being like them? How is that possible?

YANRWTB - I was putting the phrase in context of be wise with who you choose to spend time with. Simply put, people have the ability to influence you. i.e When someone starts saying a word and repetitively using it over and over again, sooner or later, you’re bound to end up using it too. Well, it’s like that with life, too. Who you choose to surround yourself with mirrors who you can possibly become.
However, I feel like people only come to me when they're upset, feel lonely, or need something. I don't know if I should be rude about it and point out that I only exist when they want me to exist, or if I should stay quiet and just let it slide.
I want to be a good person who people want to come to for comfort or advice, but I also want real friendships in which I get something in return in terms of acknowledgement and comfort.

Max: This was me. And I put up with it for years. And in the end, I’ve gained the best friends of my life. I know how hard it can be to feel like people just talk to you when they’re sad. But have you thought about their perspective of you? They see you as the dependable person that will always be there for them. And as long as you stick in there and stay that person, they’ll be there for you, too. You are an amazing person. You are kind and caring and wonderful, and others will see it. Just stay strong. Things always have a way of working themselves out.

Max: “Would you like to go to the Sadie Hawkins dance with me?”

Elaine: Oversensitive guys? As if there’s a level of sensitivity they can’t surpass? To be honest, I don’t think being sensitive makes them feminine because there are a lot of women who are less sensitive than others. Vulnerable guys are just comfortable enough to expose their feelings. And perhaps it may not be in the most reasonable way, but emotions are never reasonable. Everyone reacts to things in different ways, boys and girls. If you have a problem with “sappy, over-dramatic” boys, you should at least inform them of how you feel about it. Don’t attack the idea that they’re oversensitive. Because if they really are sensitive, telling them in a hostile way would break them. Lol.. Just saying.
What if each of your best friends are different. What if you don't hang out with a pack of people but in singles. Not all the time but when you can.
Will you still end being like them? How is that possible?

YANRWTB - I was putting the phrase in context of be wise with who you choose to spend time with. Simply put, people have the ability to influence you. i.e When someone starts saying a word and repetitively using it over and over again, sooner or later, you’re bound to end up using it too. Well, it’s like that with life, too. Who you choose to surround yourself with mirrors who you can possibly become.

Max: “Would you like to go to the Sadie Hawkins dance with me?”
However, I feel like people only come to me when they're upset, feel lonely, or need something. I don't know if I should be rude about it and point out that I only exist when they want me to exist, or if I should stay quiet and just let it slide.
I want to be a good person who people want to come to for comfort or advice, but I also want real friendships in which I get something in return in terms of acknowledgement and comfort.

Max: This was me. And I put up with it for years. And in the end, I’ve gained the best friends of my life. I know how hard it can be to feel like people just talk to you when they’re sad. But have you thought about their perspective of you? They see you as the dependable person that will always be there for them. And as long as you stick in there and stay that person, they’ll be there for you, too. You are an amazing person. You are kind and caring and wonderful, and others will see it. Just stay strong. Things always have a way of working themselves out.
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