As a patient, your should be entitled to a confidentiality between you and your doctor but he/she might HAVE to tell your parents if he considers it a serious risk… I’m familiar with self-infliction and I understand. The doctor will, no doubt, notice, but I don’t know what your parents will do should they hear about it. Obviously the negative stigma is all that they’ll notice, so your best bet would be to try and work your way around them despite your anxiety; let them know that the negativity isn’t a choice, but an effect, and that you wish it were gone. 

Anything that can help them understand, do it… But always make sure you have someone else to rely on otherwise. Someone who understands and will be able to stick by your side and make sure that you won’t have to make it through this alone.

Well, first of all I am very sorry to hear that things have taken such a rotten twist for your friend, but what she needs from you is someone to lean on; being a close friend and knowing her situation fully means that you are morally obligated to take care of her. You need to give her the support she needs and to help her continue to achieve; she also needs to understand that no matter the situation there are always alternatives and her young age is in fact, an advantage. Despite what other people think or what her mom’s been telling other people, ultimately she will be successful if you can give her the push she needs. Instead of being sent off into a “great” college, she needs to make the best of the hand she’s dealt. That may sound cliche, but people vastly underestimate the effect that living in the “real world” has on people freshly out of high school. Adjusting and taking responsibility is very overwhelming for many people and I have no doubt that she feels insanely disoriented by the entire ordeal. You need to be her support and reassure her that no matter what she does, the path she chooses will ultimately lead to success is she has the drive and ambition to come out on top.

However, DO NOT mention what her mother has been saying to everyone else. She needs to recognize her own independence as an individual, because a lack of self-reliance is often will cause people to falter so early in life. Being used to “going with the flow” in high school is what builds up the expectancy to go to college and to be expected to have a greater outcome in life depending on if you go to a prestigious university or not. She could switch to trade school, apply for internships, or even just join a good frat and get hooked up with a good career from the inside. Life (and careers) has many loopholes, shortcuts, and hidden doors. I’ve learned this during my gap year and honestly, it’s helped me grow as a person.

However this is just my perspective on things and as much as I hope it helps, I can’t say for sure that it well. Best of luck to you both. <3

- Narith

I’d love to give you advice, but I’m not sure I understand what you’re asking. What do you mean “to fit this?”

No.

Yes!

Let her be. Give her the time she needs. Don’t try so hard to put things back together. Take her feelings into consideration. I went through the exact same thing last year and because he pushed too hard to try to fix things, it made me run the other way. I literally didn’t want to talk to him ever again. So give her time. If she says she wants to be friends for a bit, then try it out first. 

Haha, don’t look too much into two hugs. It might not mean much. Just keep talking to her. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Don’t force anything. Give it time and if your futures are fated, then you will be together.